From a reader in Texas:

I'm the organizer of a private j/o group here [in the Dallas/Fort Worth area]... We've had some really hot times! I have always ''gotten off'' (literally and figuratively) on ''just'' j/o, and a group of guys who feel that way is both freeing, affirming and boyish/manly bonding. Several of the bi guys in the group have come to really be more relaxed and obviously enjoying themselves than their first time at a party! And it's cool to see that.

I agree it's really fucking cool when guys who are new to the idea of male/male masturbation come to realize how amazingly masculine it can make you feel when you're stroking with buddies -- which is totally contrary to expectation for some guys, because the prevailing notion in our culture is that if two or more guys are enjoying erotic pleasure together, someone must be playing a female role. But as those of us who've tried rubbing hard dick with another man understand, it doesn't feel feminine at all. You just feel like a guy, sharing with your buddies.

UPDATE: Not only do you feel like a guy, but you feel a more intense awareness of your own masculinity when you see that another man has an erection from looking at you, from touching your penis. Just the knowledge that your maleness is exciting to your buddy, that your FUCKING DICK gives him a boner and makes him want to masturbate, makes you feel proud and masculine to show off your stiff meat to him. Gets you totally focused on your manhood...